Greetings friends of BethKaya! It’s been a bit too long since my last check in before the holidays. Great News: We cleared all of our store inspections at last! This means we can start prepping and planning for the grandest of openings.
They’re back ⚡️
This has been SUCH a long road for me as a person to get to this point. Finally moving in and stocking the shelves with all of my favorite brands, it’s incredible. Stretching into new designs and birthing some new wonderful tones to fall in love with. Happy to be working with a great crew who is assisting with the pace and you will meet them soon on a bio page here but also in person at the store and in person at our events.
Speaking of events – We LOVE the Asbury Park Bizarre ! We signed up to do the Valentine Market! Details Can Be Found HERE and below.
Store Opening Dates Coming Soon! Stay Tuned for all the fun brands we are bringing in and the latest designs from Beth! Stay Warm!
Greetings! The holiday season is almost here! A time to share our gratitude and love for one another. Our focus has been creating the perfect bundles to help you care for your mind/body/spirit.
Give the gift to yourself and loved ones this season of self-care!
We are kind of going on tour! We have been working hard to prepare for some exciting events in Asbury Park this December with the store opening being so up in the air. We want to get the products in your hands however we have to do it!
December 10th and 17th, we will be returning to the Bazaar in Convention Hall for their annual holiday vendor event. The Indian Summer bazaar in September was a blast and we are anticipating this will be even more so. Grab some hot cocoa and join us for the fun!
On December 22nd, we will be in Asbury Park once again for a very special workshop. Keli Skellinger, the esteemed owner of Maitrisage – Massage + Reflexology, invited us to her monthly Sukha Series to share our wisdom and products right before Christmas. We decided to offer a relaxing bath soak and tea ritual that has been a staple of our daily self-care. For a $15 suggested donation, you will be able to create your own salts bath to take home! Bring your oils or use ours and we’ll bring the salt bar! We will have a table set up for the event as well, so it will be a perfect time to stock up on any last minute gifts. By the way, Keli is an amazing body worker – Asbury Park and Jersey Shore locals need to hit her up if you need the best massage you’ve ever had. She’s magical.
Be on the lookout soon for our upcoming store announcements. We have been creating a beautiful space in Brick Township to share with all of you. Our permits were released TODAY so that means it will be a few more weeks yet. Maybe December 1? We will see – I hope you’ll support us now and when we finally open. Our loyal patrons have been so wonderful! Until then, you will be able to shop online at https://www.etsy.com/shop/bethkaya
**If you are local, you can save on shipping and pick up your online order at the store! Just mention it in the comment section. We will refund/ or hold your shipping and arrange the best time for you to pick it up. Also, we ship ALL over the world and gift wrap, so if you want to beat the holiday rush at the post office, once the store is open, we can totally assist.
**Those ordering BethKaya goods online, please note that shipping times are 10-14 business days. Please take that into consideration when placing orders, we do high volume and there is only a few hands in the pot – we never want to rush our process. You all know by now that we treat each package really special and pack an experience into each one! Please reach out if you have gifting needs or if you need to rush your package past the queue.
Additionally we have holistic products galore in boxes waiting for our store to open. We have ALL of the best brands, BethKaya of course and names like Jason, Zum, Aura Cacia, Burts Bees, Doctor Bronner’s and More!
Contact Beth to set a budget and create a spa care gift set for you or a loved one this season. We will prepare it based on your tastes or the scents you think your loved ones would like and then package it beautifully and send it wherever you wish! You may call the store’s phone number also if you wish to speak to me or an associate about placing an order or visiting!
Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! We wish you a beautiful holiday filled with love and new memories.
Bethkaya & the Self Care Cove
MENTION : “WINTERLOVE” in your checkout memo through etsy and receive a FREE patchouli and lavender vegan soap slice!
Not here! We are just heating up! I haven’t blogged in a while – I’ve been trying to focus on the VIP email list content. If you haven’t signed up yet – you can do so below!
So if you follow us on social media you see a lot of changes we are going through as a business. For one I keep saying WE – yes we- I have a dear friend Michelle Russo who is flying copilot right now with BethKaya and the new venture – Self Care Cafe. She’s a beautiful soul, if you’re a friend of BethKaya, you know her by now but I will just formally say she is helping me keep my head above water. Along with several other players, you know who you are, and your time is coming. Thank you to everyone again and again for donating and supporting our self care mission!
We leased a space in Brick NJ and it’s adorable, the issues we are having getting into the space however, not so adorable. That’s an entirely different post and for all things considered, let’s keep the tone happy.
I just did a late season restock on some new soaps, scent sizes, crystal parcels and orgone pieces. As I have money invested into the store front – I simply need your support. Things I’ve been sitting on are going to need to get uploaded and move out! So stay tuned to the etsy shop and keep checking back. It will take time for us to get into the space and we need the online business to have the same level of dedication if not more to be able to keep this dream floating.
We are signed on to vend the Asbury Indian Summer Bazaar on Sunday Sept 24! I will be releasing more info about that in a little while but for now mark your calenders, it’s my birthday weekend btw so you simply can’t miss it! Not to mention tons of amazing vendors in the hottest spot on the jersey shore!
Additionally – the lovely Zoe Wilder has written a beautiful article about us again and it landed in Magnetic Magazine! Check it out here!
Also I know it’s late notice but it’s not too late to learn about this exciting spoken word movement called VERBATIM. Tomorrow evening I will be reading some poetry along with some wonderful features and following that will be an open mic. I would love to hear your words too! Here is more info! Please come!
My friends in Georgia all have kids starting school this week. Let’s hold onto what is left.
Sidenote : If you are local and want to come to a little underground spoken word movement we are starting – sign up for info here:
Hey you good lookin! ⚡️
Now That I have spammed you up enough, and I hope you’ve written all that down – I am gonna jet and stay tuned for more info. Thanks for reading!
Spring has sprung! My shop is open and flowing. I am slow and going, but moving! Some changes – ship time will be a little slower, please understand I take a lot of time on each package and personalize every one. This isn’t an overnight thing, especially with some welcome volume!
Less green fragrances, nothing new for this season in that department, just old favorites people love. This collection is aimed at people who are sensitive to chemicals and also essential oils. With that, I have designed SO MANY essential oil aromatherapy blends and am releasing them little by little to share with you.
New Beeswax Candles and Some Hand Picked Specimes also! *If you are looking for essential Oil diffuser equipment, message me on etsy!
Check the shop out to see and read about some of the aromatherapy new players!
This season has LOTS of citrus –
Lime, Grapefruit, Lemon, Tangerine, Blood Orange
and MINT – Spearmint, Wintergreen, Peppermint
Finally – mid tones like Marjoram and Clary sage – This seasons hues are ALL about pushing forward, through, elevation, invigoration, motivation and inspiration!
EVERY ORDER is getting surprises to make each person feel really special for making self care a priority!
What tones are you loving this season?
For my essential Oil heads out there here is a little recipe for a lifting
JOY SPRAY which I like to keep around the bathroom or foyer space:
*Supplies – Amazon has a great selection of oils, bottles and mixing supplies!
1 – 2 oz Glass Amber Sprayer
1 – tsp Witch Hazel
6 D Sweet Orange Essential Oil
4 D Peppermint Essential Oil
3 D Bergamot Essential Oil
4 D Lemon Essential Oil
3 D Vanilla Essential Oil (Optional)
1 – tsp 80 Proof Vodka
Mix, Shake and Spray! Add a Quartz or Citrine to the bottle to boost the Amplification Power!
So it’s been about 2 months since I have checked in here. There is so much to say. Let’s start with I am feeling good. That’s a great place to be. This surgery was huge but also reminded me how small I am as well. A lot of surviving hardship is about “surrender” – a lot happens we don’t expect, and when we resist , it becomes even tougher. This time I surrendered and am very pleased with things.
The time I’ve had off to focus on self care has been wonderful. My soul feels like I gave myself the space and energy it deserved to get through this hurdle. The tumors came out clean, pathology came out great and I have spent my time resting, binging on a new found love for television and a reignited old flame, pinterest. I realised that I haven’t felt RESTFUL in so long. No wonder I was constantly anxious and stressed out.
This experience has been a shift and a gift. I hope you all enjoyed the instagram takeover from my dear friend Meri from @gardensofthesun
If you missed her residency here are some outtakes!
“The bug soap is my daughter’s absolute fave. She loves the subtle scent, the soft lilac color and how she can let it fly over the tub. Next up I hope to give her one of Beth’s golden buddha soaps! Has anyone tried those yet? – Meri”
“Bali life is pretty good. As in, it’s amazing. I’m grateful for every single second of it. And the tub is definitely a bonus When we still lived in Java I got dengue fever and typhoid a few times. You just get sick a bit easier here in the tropics. We didn’t have hot water for years, and when we left I knew I wanted to move to house with a bath for the days we get ill. When the soreness and the aching gets into your bones and your knuckles, and it hurts even to lie down, nothing is more relieving than a nice warm bath. And a little self-care on the weekends never hurts! – Meri”
“The salt scrub is my absolute fave. This is my third bag of the most divine smelling salts. Beth, you can never ever stop making these!!! -Meri”
“I’ve been a raving fan of BethKaya for several years now. I still remember my very first purchase from Beth – the warm vanilla fig perfume oil mixed with little rough gems. I keep coming back to this scent, it’s the one that got me hooked. Do you remember your first purchase from Beth? -Meri”
“The gemstones hidden inside the soaps are the best thing ever! It’s like a little surprise. The tumbled stone is slowly revealing itself from the Brandied Pear & Lemon Poppy Soap. Can you guess what stone it is? -Meri”
“How does Beth even dream up all these wonderful combinations?! I mean citrus, basil, vanilla and mint! Amethyst, lavender and orange! – Meri”
What a beautiful tone to return to!
I still need a few weeks to get my act and line up together. But my focus is centered on re-invigorated intentions – tones like Citrus, Ginger, Orchid, Artic, Mint , Guava, Coconut and Rain,. I will lean on those myself to get my physical capacity back up to where it once was again then design self care pearls for the shop.
On another note some; and by some I mean a “paraphrased few” of my words were published in an article “sort of” about self care in Refinery29 – you can find the article here:
It’s ironic that a little self pampering and love is exactly what I needed for so long considering this is what my offerings are rooted within. Sending you all the best the ides of march has to offer and thank you for many of your supports.
Makeup can be the difference between feeling undead
And human again
A bra is motivation to do something
House work ?
A scar below the bikini line seeing with two stab wound eyes in the belly and a belly button puncture for a nose
Can mean weight or weightless
And a prayer you’ll never forget how hard the fight is
Tension is so high you can cut it like a knife through hot butter.
At this point you might know I am closing BETHKAYA down the first week of February for a health hiatus. I am getting to the “resigned” place I need to be but will miss this day to day. I realize it won’t be forever and I know that coming back refreshed, with new perspective will be a blessing. Recovering from surgery and my family is super important to focus on.
The process of getting to this stage has taken a toll. It’s brought a lot of feelings to the surface. A chronic condition teaches you a lot. There’s no replacing these lessons but I’ve coped with those feelings in different ways.
At first I felt so determined to heal myself and broke up with everything that everyone says is bad for you. Food, People, Habits – then I went on a crazy juice cleanse that spurred a lot of healthy choices. It was too polarizing perhaps because it crashed hard into a spiral of Klondike bar abuse. The balance is always hard to strike, the climb is always happening at the same time.
“For the benefit of the flowers, we water the thorns too.”
SELF CARE is a constant concept that is floating around because I see a lot of BROKEN people walking around trying to break other people. We all need to take care of ourselves, we can lean on supports, ask for supports but the crux of everything comes back to whether or not you are taking care of yourself. After my fascist diet crashed I found myself eating sweets constantly. Pie, Cake, Ice cream and even EVEN fast food! What happened to my resolve?
The thing about fast food is that there is a particular flavor you know. Perhaps since from childhood, and it’s something comforting & familiar. You’re getting exactly (hopefully) what you set out to. It’s rare in life to be able to nurse that need, or have that control. I know it’s really important to be aware of when this needs to come into balance but also to live a little too.
It’s saying to yourself I can be healthy and also indulge sometimes. For me I know a piece of pie here and there is ok. The next couple days leading up to the surgery I will be mindful of my diet because I know that will be a key component to feeling well in the days after surgery. But for one night, it will be belligerently about burning calories (dancing) while having desserts too!
Next FRIDAY 2/3/17 I am hosting this party:
Flier By Chris Rockwell
I am looking forward to this so much and am very thankful to the friends who are helping to put this together! Also I will be making A HUGE announcement about the future of BethKaya. If you come use hashtag #SWEETSNBEATS so I can see your event media online!
Also I would like to wish my dear friend and Self Care Cafe partner Michelle Russo a Happy Birthday! FEEL FREE to shower her with those sentiments at the party!
A little more about the event –
This started as a house party concept but I realized…
… I didn’t want people in my house before surgery! 😀 So this concept came on strong and I am flowing with it. There are a lot of amazing, talented people in the community and they also happen to support the BETHKAYA label. Thank You for that!
In historic Lakewood NJ’s beautiful STRAND THEATER, we will come together over a massive dessert bar, music, dancing, entertainment, raffle prizes and of course some BETHKAYA merch!
Jason Portizo – http://www.djjthomas.com/ – DJ, Sound Engineer
Matt Raspanti – https://www.facebook.com/mattmattbobatt – Musician
LEX REX – https://www.facebook.com/lexrexandthedragons/ @lexrexandthedragons – Musician
Chris Rockwell – https://www.facebook.com/chris.rockwell.owns @Mrchrisrockwell – Musician
Marielle Cannon – @mariella_elise – Belly Dance /Performance Artist
If you would like to RSVP (preferred but not required) or be added to the private event page, email me at BETHKAYA@gmail.com
I hope to see you there!
Also – till next friday I am running a 20% Special in the ETSY shop on orders over $25 – Use Code: CLOSINGPURGE20 at checkout!
I was happy to say goodbye to 2016. I think so many people were. It was like a whole internet thing. Now 2017 is here and I’ve stepped on a few rakes already. I guess perhaps no one should blame an entire YEAR for what is actually LIFE.
So I have a surgery date on the map , 2/9 – this month will be filled with pre op tests and also focused production for a final push in my shop before I go on a hiatus. I have NO idea what that will look like. There are so many questions, but all of it is unknown. I must get to the other side, and I will.
There’s a quiet calm right now flowing through my fingertips. This is where great design comes from. I know that the beauty in my life comes from source. There was a lot of loss this past year for me. In bad and good ways.
Some of those ways purely sat on my attitude. I hardened. There were moments coming up in this business where knives went into my back. I am still climbing, always climbing. There’s always a new view to find and there’s always unstable ground.
With all of this the blaring message is clear to me and where I want my work to continue to evolve towards. SELF CARE is paramount. The items I create are rooted in self care and the take away is that no one can be whole, without nourishing their minds, bodies and souls. My customers come to me for this and I want to bring more than ever to the table in this sense. But first I have to take care of my health and see where I land. Its totally a crapshoot waiting game. I am planning things, with beautiful people and I feel really confident that in 2017 I will have a HUGE announcement.
Follow me at SELF CARE CAFE on Instagram. My dear friend and alliance with this project Michelle will be co hosting this with me. The goal is to promote healthy self care rituals, products, meals and brands, for now ;).
Thanks for checking back in and supporting my work!
Happy Holidays and thank you to all of my beautiful patrons. It’s been a really abundant year at BethKaya. Going into surgery (date is set now 2/9) I am confident that afterwards I will be onto bigger things.
Happily featured in Magnetic Magazine’s Last minute Cannabis Inspired Holiday Gift Guide. My fragrances based around Cannabis Flower come in Fig & Olive, Maple & Seasalt, Sandalwood blends and more!
Here are some items I’ve been tinkering with just seasonally in small batches. I am going through this phase of creating items that appeal to the solar plexus and uplift spirits, naturally it being winter sometimes those blues catch up. Here’s to YELLOW!
#unisex tone #cannabis flower, olive and fig paired with Tibetan Quartz, peridot and calendula petal ⚡️
That fireplace scent has crept into the general atmosphere. As those shifts happen, shifts in design, musical desires and creativity occur. It’s time to shed for the long winter of idea brewing and hibernation. Here are some of the latest lovlies to be had in my creative shop of musings. Reminder that I am only open for sales Friday am – Monday pm.
✨Selenite, Vintage Mugs and Salt Rocks with Wooden Wicks and Vegan Musings in the Key of Cherry Tobacco Mint or Lemon Herbal Mint
The mushrooms tho Sacred Geometry Crystal Grids on Vintage Plates Restocked⚡️
Auctions are BACK for Saturday AM on my @BethKaya Instagram channel, around 10:30 am EST Through Sundays 9pm est
Vintage trays in Smudge / Intention Bundles
Generation 4.2 Orgone Series
Intentional aromatherapy sprays – this one is toned with ACCEPTANCE – Peridot Infused with Bergamot, Cedar and Sweet Orange ⚡️
Collaboration Orgone Discus with @JdrewSilvers – orgone generation 4.2
Special unisex fragrance release appropriately named for lunar activity BLACK MOON. This hue is rooted in cedarwood and and married to Egyptian Musk with a citrus finish. This is a rich scent infused with moonstone, black Jasper and red sandalwood. Limited offering just for the season – BLACK MOON,
All natural Crystal spa bath sets including for giant bath melts / patchouli, peppermint tea tree, ginger lime and citrus cedar sage paired with a palo santo smudge, amethyst specimen, selenite sphere, polished pyrite, 3 oz Vegan Lime soap and a Beach Guardian scented Crystal Tealight
Signature Rose Quartz infused #toner tincturing with fresh rose petals and foraged witch hazel twigs ⚡️
✨Smellovision✨ fresh vanilla bean, Tangerine, chocolate mint, lemon, basil, hint of cedar married to finely ground Himalayan and Dead Sea salts & peppered with renewing Peptides. ⚡️
New and Old Signature Crystal Infused Fragrances are Now Up and Live
Hope you enjoyed the Fall / Winter 2016/2017 BethKaya Preview and I hope you continue to show your selves and support my artwork.
Are there any scents you love and want to see come out for the seasons ahead? Let me know! Comment ! Enjoy your week!
As mentioned in my last blog – I am going to be rolling out some new projects. One of those projects is a life study of sorts. I free flowed with some interview questions, inspired by questions I’ve been asked myself in interviews. These are also questions I feel frame the voice of what information I want to showcase from the individuals I’m blogging about. The protein. All of these individuals, are just that, individual. They are inspired, living their truth and sharing it with the world. Like me. Sometimes everyone feels like it’s an uphill battle, and sometimes feel alone. The fellowship is there that helps light the path for dreams. We can be inspired by real people, heroes in every day life. These same questions are going to be the root of this project, and the participants – the leaves of a beautiful growth. I’m not editing their words either – this is the freedom in the flow of affirming this stuff. I’d love to start this project with Alexis Pellegrino, local musician, dance technician and swagger magician.
*Cover Art (Listen)*
Tell me about yourself in a few sentences.
I consider myself to be an appreciator, curator, and mostly….a creator of art. I don’t like to limit myself to a certain medium or style. I make music one day, paint another day, embellish a jacket in the morning, conduct a dance class at night for young adults, design graphics, design clothes. I am ALWAYS trying to learn and appreciate new things. I am inspired by everything. Currently, I’m working on my solo project, “Lex Rex and the Dragons”.
What is the “why” behind your magic?
I’m not sure I know how to express myself any other way. I think I have an addiction to expressing myself.
Much like many people who express themselves through creative outlets, I had a pretty interesting childhood. I was terrorized in school. I like to skate and surf. As a kid I was ranked in the Eastern Surfing Association. I used to paddle out during the winter months and if you know anything about a full suit….you know having long hair is a pain. So, I chopped my hair off. Short cut, and I was absolutely a “tom boy”. I used to get made fun of for being “gay” and a “dyke”. Then my hair grew out, and I was made fun of for being expressive. I always dressed quirky. I’d paint my pants, paint my shoes, make t-shirts…..I guess I was pretty DIY punk at a young age…but I didn’t even know what that was at that age. I was just being me, really.
How has your past influenced where you are now with your career?
Honestly, my past has both negative and positive influences on my career….but I am a firm believer of believing in the universe. I was very nervous to start making and doing music. It is the only thing safe to me. Gets me the highest. I was nervous to put it out in the atmosphere for some time. It was/is sacred to me and I didn’t want to be put down like I was in school.
In college I used to have night terrors, that I would never actually start making and doing music. So I said “Fuck it” I am going to do this, even if it is a slow process. I started playing the keys and doing some covers. posting them online. I was in a hair metal cover band for some time, then I decided I wasn’t being fulfilled by that. I started posting some covers more covers on Facebook and was getting really into the “scene” in Asbury. I started doing some small acoustic shows and here we are.
Every time I do a show, I do it and “pour some out” for the people who said I was nothing…..Thank you.
What are two major things that you can’t be without on your day to day operations?
Well, in 2016 I would be absolutely lying if I said my phone wasn’t a big deal. I am inspired a lot by photographs online as well as daily things I come across in life. I am always taking pictures with my phone, as well as listening to music. I also really love to stay in contact with my friends and family. They are very supportive of me and I am always showing them love as well.
The other Major thing would be my backpack. I keep my journal in there, my dinosaur figurine Parizzz and my dragon figurine Rex Jr., My polaroid Camera, A plethora of headphones, pens, USB drives, my computer……it’s basically my life kit.
What is something that you learned only after you went for your goal, that you want to share with anyone shooting for theirs?
STAY TRUE TO WHAT YOU WANT, AND DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT FITTING IN OR BEING LAME.
For SOOOO LONG, I tried to fit into the local scene. The rock that the local scene is doing isn’t exactly what fits me best. I grew up listening to Jazz, Hip-Hop, and Pop. That is where my music is focused now. That is me. Always be YOU!
Where is the rush in this passion for you?
The rush isn’t exactly the finished product. It’s the foreplay. It’s the mental vision, the inspiration, the soul, the guts and glitter behind
what I am trying to convey. The finished product is usually never EXACTLY how you envision it….if you are lucky and work with the right people…..it’ll be better. But like I said, it’s about the process. The process is the sexiest part.
What are the pitfalls?
The pitfalls are definitely just life in general…you know…the saying “Life Happens”. Your life happens, my life happens, the people you work with…their life happens. You have to trust the process though. We aren’t Interscope, we aren’t robots…..we are humans trying to make art, while living. Shit happens. In saying that, I am definitely what I call OD and absolutely OCD. I am always trying to make myself and the people around me challenge themselves and let the “babies” we make inspire them.
How do you manifest things into reality?
Didn’t you see the Barbie Jeep I rolled in on? For real, I have one….her name is BJ.
Reality is a big thing for me. I understand every artist has an ego of sorts. I see some people in the scene with some REALLY BIG egos. I don’t ever want to take anything for granted, I don’t want to take people for granted, I don’t want to be a monster and treat people like shit. I believe in being firm…I don’t believe in being a dictator. I work with kids everyday. if you don’t humble yourself, they will humble you….and sometimes even if you humble yourself, they will still humble you. haha
Where are you hoping to head next?
I am currently in the studio, looking to have a single drop for my project “Lex Rex and the Dragons” before November. I am also having an EP in the works as well as some videos happening. Super stoked for that. I am excited to just live in the process.
Currently listening to?
I am absolutely a playlist kind of girl. I’ll rattle off some artists on my current playlist.
Kendrick Lamar, David Bowie, Frank Ocean, M.I.A., Lauryn Hill, Kanye West, Gorillaz, Madonna, Stevie Wonder, Led Zeppelin, Black Sabbath, Rae Sremmurd, The Weeknd.
Some one or a quote that inspires you:
My dad is my biggest inspiration. He is arguably the reason I am a creative. He is a phenomenal Jazz musician. He still hustles teaching children and playing gigs. If i can be half the person my dad is, I’d be the happiest person.
Both of my parents are my best friends. I literally and figuratively wouldn’t be here without their love and support.
What drew you to work with BethKaya?
I love to work with passionate people. Beth is a passionate person. I am always supporting her endeavors and cheering her on via social media. It is so refreshing to see someone who makes quality art, who is also the most positive, supportive, and absolutely energetic person. I am also super inspired by her accomplishments thus far as well as her work ethic and drive. She is building an empire. HOMEGIRL is NOT MESSIN ROUND. #womancrush.
3 hours agoby BethKaya Good Morning. Craving a discussion, can you tell me about a time people judged or were cruel to you for being different? Safe space here... > my response to this is absolutely - in just about every social circle I end up in there has always been a couple of rat bastids lol in there that wanted to humiliate me, oust me or plainly were threatened by me just for being me. It used to really destroy me inside not being or feeling accepted. The best thing I did to set myself free was just that, I set myself free…